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She Called Her Daddy…

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How bad is it when an “adult” coworker decides not to face the reality of their adverse job situation and reverts to calling their parental unit to get involved in the issue?

I witnessed this happen at my place of employment. Aside from the words on this digital page, I am at a loss for most others.

When your folks foist you on the working world, it is hoped/assumed/prayed that even if you are not completely ready for all that can happen, you have  the basics mastered. You can write business letters, speak clearly into a phone, understand elementary etiquette rules, address your superiors properly and most important, you can tell the truth whether you are right or wrong, give credit where it is due and display sufficient spine to stand up and sort it out for yourself when things get tough.

I have a coworker who is not even remotely ready for work in the realm of reality. Pouting, cursing, ignoring ringing phones, insisting on time off when none is earned or available, long lunches, leaving early and forgetting to get work done are some of the notable characteristics displayed on a daily basis.

And the shake-your-head-in-wonder moment of the week: when her demand for time off was refused, she called her father to ask him to call the boss on her behalf.

No, just plain oh-no-it-did-not-happen.

Yes, it did.

How does a person lack the common sense in a case like this? Which part of the adult brain just shuts off, and which part moves backwards into childhood, thinking, “I’m telling on you! I’m getting my daddy to fix this right now if you don’t give me what I want!”

I’d love to phone a friend, a parent or someone when life takes a hard left. Mom and Dad are gone, and I think my friends would have me committed if I did to them what this coworker did. I can commiserate with my brothers, of course.  But asking them to step up to the plate because someone picked on their sister?

Note to coworker: grow a set (and a spare set) soon. It is a mean world out there. And your daddy won’t be around forever.

 

 

 

 

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A bread and butter kind of day

You’ve had them, I know.

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Calling Dr. Bread and Nurse Butter!

The kind of day where only carbs with a liberal slathering of fats will do.

I’ve had my share of them in the past ten weeks. Some good days and some good job interviews. And some that were not merely forgettable, they were worth walking out on. I mean both the days and the interviews.

But plugging along, working out and planning for what’s next, even if I don’t know exactly what it is, is keeping the brain sane and steady. I’m volunteering this weekend, at the triathlon that started it all for me. It’s a local super sprint, and it’s the one I did last year. The one that scared me the most because it was my first, and lured me into thinking I could keep doing them, because I finished that one. In less than two weeks, triathlon number five takes place, at a venue I know well but never used for competition.

I let myself have some sourdough bread and butter today (OK, “some” is a four-letter word for overdoing it) because I now have to cut back and behave until my own event. I forced myself away from the computer to go outside and kill weeds. I’ve stayed far, far away from the TV pundits and political websites and the outshout-the-other candidate soundbites, though I did go and vote in the state primary.

No TV or newspaper tomorrow. Lots of job searching, prepping for a career fair later this week, freelance work and chores around the house. Oh, and no more bread and butter, at

I let myself have some sourdough bread and butter today (OK, “some” is a four-letter word for overdoing it) because I now have to cut back and behave until my own event. I forced myself away from the computer to go outside and kill weeds. I’ve stayed far, far away from the TV pundits and political websites and the outshout-the-other candidate soundbites, though I did go and vote in the state primary.

No TV or newspaper tomorrow. Lots of job searching, prepping for a career fair later this week, freelance work and chores around the house. Oh, and no more bread and butter, at least for now.

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Four weeks, still sane…so far

It does not seem that long, but it has been four weeks without a job.

I’m still OK, and busy. Sending out applications and resumes every day, working out more often, and spending less and when I do spend, it’s cash and it’s done with care.

I’m not cutting back much on competitions at this point. Three swim meets, a triathlon and a 10K are on the schedule in the next six weeks. I’d like to add a half-marathon to that, if a job offer comes through. Or a 5K, if it doesn’t. It’s all about price at this point.

I’m taking the opportunity to search outside my employment comfort level, and doing more freelance work. The house has never been cleaner (you can walk into our master bedroom closet now and not fear breaking a toe by tripping on wayward shoes, dropped hangars or misplaced backpacks).

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The time off has afforded the opportunity to photograph local art.

The Husband would probably like the home office to himself more often, but he has exhibited patience and good humor about it (I bribed him with homemade oatmeal raisin cookies).

In spite of advice to the contrary, I have not changed my habits. I still wake up and go to bed at basically the same time I did when working. I still maintain discipline by dressing as if I am working, and having a to-do list each day, with specific tasks to complete. The temptation to curl up on the couch and watch idiot TV programming is getting stronger, I admit, as is the sense of occasional depressive thoughts, such as the notion that not one single employer is ever going to find me or my talents worthy of money. But in the end, as I said at the beginning, I’m still doing OK and working on getting back to work.

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New Job? Yes! No Compensation…No Thanks

Networking Freelancers

Networking Freelancers (Photo credit: solobasssteve)

I’ve started a serious job search. And while I’m not a veteran at this kind of thing, I’ve done it enough to know that things have changed.

Put it into automotive terms: I’m holding onto the steering wheel, but the car it’s attached to looks a whole lot different.

Early in my working career, we had no social media. No Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn or other digital assistance for finding job listings, networking, posting a resume, etc. Networking in the old days involved a telephone, actual paper resumés and a lot of drinking in bars. And when a job was posted (in something called a printed newspaper), you faxed your resumé from your office, someone else’s office or a UPS Store. Now, anyone can find a job posting, email, click, attach resumé and hit Send, without ever leaving the comfort of the couch and bag of Cheetos.

And there’s a phenomenon I’ve noticed recently: the idea of working for no pay, just for the possibility of getting one’s work, usually freelance writing, noticed, on someone’s blog, magazine or other publication, for which they are likely earning money. No compensation…um, no thanks. Whatever it is I plan to do from now on, I’d like to get paid for it. I can work for no pay elsewhere; it’s called being a volunteer.

I’m getting the word out to my network, and won’t have an issue trying out part-time gigs, just to see if they are a good fit. I’m not sad or pained by the end of the old working life. I’ve seen it coming for a long time, and kept up the pretense of life support for far too long. I’m getting the money and insurance details in order, and making sure bills are paid off and there’s a good stock of supplies for us and the cats. The Husband was shocked by all this, but handled it well. He saw it coming, and I think he believes I’ll be around the house more. On the contrary, I plan to be busier than ever, I will install a lock on the home office door, and I will find something that makes me want to get up and get to work every day. Never again do I want to feel like a day of work is a four-letter word. And thanks in advance for your support. Oh, and job leads/ideas are also welcome.

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It’s My Free Time, And I’ll Do What I Want…Maybe

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Time Management (Photo credit: Intersection Consulting)

No attempted good deed ever goes unpunished in my world.

My schedule is so nuts, I have to plan my free time. Yes, it’s that bad. No, I don’t have kids. Yes, I know those of you who do have it worse. No, I don’t think I can handle hearing just how much worse. I’ve heard the stories; I get it, and I respect you.

I’ve done posts before about the calendars I use and I’ve bemoaned the lack of time to do things I should, like take personal grieving time after my mother died. But recently, a new twist found its way into the scene. I call it the overscheduled-wife-underscheduled-husband syndrome. Maybe you’ve heard of it.

To refresh your collective memory: The Husband (the title I use for my spouse/sometimes better half/the human the cats think is in charge) is retired, and has been for a few years. Monday through Friday, he keeps busy with automotive and house projects, club meetings and whatever household chores I require of him as a tradeoff for continuing to cook his meals. The problem is the weekends. I need to do my stuff. My stuff would be freelance writing, editing and the research that goes with that. I also volunteer when I can fit it in. I do laundry, grocery shop, longer workouts, athletic competitions, paperwork (anything from filing to gathering tax papers to monitoring investments) and household chores that require my personal attention, like cleaning toilets (yes, I’ve asked him to do this. The look he gave me was somewhere between shocked and toxic). The Husband wants to do fun stuff, like shop and go to the beach and car shows. Clearly, he does not have enough to do.

Shop? I hate to shop, unless it’s food-related. There’s something screwy with my girly genetics, and I know it.

The beach? I am at the age where skin preservation is paramount. My sunblock’s SPF is so high, the stuff looks like house paint.

Car shows? Hey, I like nice cars, but only if I can drive it and someone else is buying it for me.

Lately, it’s been about compromise. I give up a few hours on one weekend day, and in return, I usually get the rest to do what I need. I still miss the lazy times when I could sneak in a nap, though. But I’m hopeful. The Husband’s posterior will soon be firmly planted in front of the high-def, watching grown men race fast cars while they avoid immovable objects, like concrete walls. That’s right: NASCAR, Formula 1, IndyCar and all their brethren are heading to our living room. And I’ll get all my weekends back.

 

 

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Marijuana, Yes, But No Twinkies? Why, Why, Why?

Twinkies (Hostess Twinkies is a trademark of I...

Twinkies (Hostess Twinkies is a trademark of Interstate Bakeries Corporation). (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The votes are in (though in some places, like my home state, they are being contested) and the verdict is: two more states legalized medical marijuana (Colorado and Washington).

Given that momentous, if not universally welcome news, imagine this: a world without Twinkies. Or Wonder Bread.

Damn. It’s bad enough that Superstorm Sandy took out the Jersey Shore. Now the striking members of Hostess’ baker’s union want another piece of my childhood?

But that’s how it looks as of this morning. Hostess says they cannot afford a protracted strike, so they will close plants, lay off 18,500 employees and sell their product line.

As if growing older didn’t already have its rough side, like taking longer to heal from injuries and illness, grieving over losing loved ones, watching friends and neighbors lose their jobs and homes to foreclosure and job issues, the Hostess folks have to throw this wrench into the monkey bars.

For the record, I was never a fan of Twinkies, though The Husband likes them. The filling tastes artificially sweet and the cake has the consistency of a dish sponge. But Hostess made other things I liked. I admit to eating more than my share of bologna on Wonder Bread. As for the sweets, there were Ho-Hos, Ring Dings, Devil Dogs (my mother’s favorite) and the best of the best, Funny Bones (chocolate cakes with peanut butter cream inside). My mother used to split the Devil Dogs apart, the way people split Oreos, and eat the plain cake side, then the cream-slathered side. I can still picture her, sitting at the kitchen table in our first house, me on one end of the table and her on the other. It was a small kitchen with ugly wallpaper and no counter space, but right now, the memories fill it to the point of tears.

I just checked to see what was going on with the Hostess website. It’s offline. All I get is an error message.

Note to Hostess: you have no idea how sadly appropriate that is.

 

 

 

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Guilt-Free Love for the Cleaning Lady

Is it wrong to not only employ outside help in your home, but to actually enjoy and appreciate the fact that you do?

A friend of mine, “Miss Rigby,” is a professional cleaning lady. Not young in terms of her years, but very much so in terms of her spirit, she has about a half-dozen clients close to her home. They live in abodes of up to 6,000 square feet, they have kids, elderly parents, pets, jobs, businesses – and they all have homes in various states of uncleanliness. Miss Rigby can spend anywhere from two to seven hours in their homes, cleaning everything from bathrooms to baseboard to antique bric-a-brac. Some of these folks are very good about paying, even paying a full hour’s rate for part of an hour’s work. Some of them have a tendency to “forget” to leave a check altogether.

Miss Rigby loves the good payers, and wishes a pox, a plague and warty toes on the others. And she has replaced a few  clients who treated her like property to be loaned to others, a potential thief, or a low-caste being with the intelligence of a Pet Rock. Some have left “test dirt.” Some have left their toddlers at her feet – while she’s trying to remove child grime from their floors.

That’s no way to love the cleaning lady. Or anyone else who’s paid to help you keep your house and your sanity.

A few of my acquaintances say they base their current level of (relative) sanity on the fact that they have outside help, be it with cleaning, yard care, weekly manicure or child care. It’s not so much because they cannot do these chores themselves. The extra time gained from delegating the job (and paying well) mattered to them. Here are some of the things they said:

“I pay $70 every other Thursday for a cleaning lady.”

“Seventy dollars is not bad. I’m thinking cleaning and lawn care will probably be the first two things we hire out after we have kids. I’d feel a little weird having strangers in my home, but it’s worth it to me if it meant the floors were mopped.”

“Seventy-five dollars every other week for the housekeeper, $55 every week for massage, $200 for a six-month yoga membership. All these things help me function  better.”

“My cleaning lady/part-time nanny who drives picks up my son from school on the days I work. It’s a huge help, because otherwise he would have to take several buses each way. Definitely helps me keep my sanity.”

So if you have the luxury/necessity/demand for outside help, good for you. You are providing employment and giving yourself some extra life-time as well. Just be nice to these folks. You never know where they will start feeding steroids to your dustbunnies.

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